All the butterflies and the head rush that are usually there during the beginning of a romantic affair slowly wear off as times goes by and you find yourself wanting to take a step back from all that but not call things off yet. In almost all romantic relationships, the beginning stages are always filled with lots of chemistry and bonding that calls for the need to spend much time together. As time goes by, the feeling of slowing things down kicks in and makes it quite awkward and hard to say it as it might end up into a break-up. Being a victim of this is very normal and should not be a reason for you to beat yourself about it as with the right tips you can actually get to takes things a step back and not having to break up. The following are tips on how to slow things down without having to call things off.
To begin with as you look to slow things down without breaking up, you need to things through. For the reason that you are actually considering to slow things down means that there is something that is taking aware of the comfort and fun of it all and you need to identify the what and why. Take some time and think it over to establish the reason why you need a breather. If your interests in her have been depleted over time, man up and are open and polite about it so as it be fair too. If you are still interested in being with her then get to establish the real issue and address it directly.
The next, very crucial move in making this a success is by getting to talk it out with her. It us very important that you get to communicate than just talk and exchange words and pleasantries. Expect her get her by what you are telling her and some tears depending with her nature but be quick to reassure her that it’s the pace of things that worries you and not her or the relationship that isn’t fit for you.
Having had the talk and handled the issue, it is appropriate that you get to set boundaries that will help you stop things from pacing up. Create boundaries of times you will be together and the times you will spend on yourself or with your boys and other friends.
Do not be the one to end mixed signals as you seem not man enough or sure of what you want with her or in the relationship.